Trying to strengthen family ties

Dear New Shrink, I am in so much pain; I don’t know what to do. I feel completely abandoned by my family. Years ago my parents divorced. My father was abusive and my mother was an alcoholic. When I moved out we were barely speaking. I told my mom she needed to get sober. I sent for the Al-Anon literature, but when I gave it to her she... Read more →


Running-free weight loss

I want everyone to know that I’ve lost 25 pounds … so far. And, I want everyone to know that I did so without running a step! How many of you think that in order to truly lose weight you have to jog or run? How many of you have been told by trainers or friends that the excess weight you’re carrying won’t really come... Read more →

Community Profiles

Affordable housing leader steps down

SECOND STREET — Since becoming the executive director of Community Corp. of Santa Monica in 1991, Joan Ling has overseen the addition of 1,200 units to the city’s stock of affordable dwellings, quadrupling the number of apartments the organization manages. It’s a feat that’s won her immodest praise from Santa... Read more →


Hot fun in the Waterloo & City

The neighborhood we live in is finally becoming trendy and “discovered” which has both positive and negative points. After a few years in Santa Monica we moved to Mar Vista-Culver City border five years ago to find a little less trendiness and more of a down-to-earth quality that was appealing. After these past few years I still... Read more →


Seven strangers share secrets

Seven people stranded in a stalled elevator makes an interesting premise for a play, wouldn’t you think?  Well, almost. In “Elevator,” a new play written and directed by Michael Leoni, seven strangers, fine actors all, twiddle through the first hours of the ordeal without really making contact with each other. In fact,... Read more →


Making moves without offending the old boss

Dear New Shrink, I started my current job about 14 months ago. I absolutely love the position and the people I work with, but I have to commute almost two hours each way. The commute is really getting to me. Recently, I discovered an opportunity in an office located closer to my home and one that would have an opposite traffic commute. I... Read more →

Book Review

‘Fantasy in Death’

What if your virtual reality was able to kill you, not only in virtual time but also in real time? This is the problem NYPSD Lt. Eve Dallas is confronted with in this work. Author J.D. Robb sets her mysteries in the future when people have droids, can travel between planets, and have access to voice recognition and video scan security. Using... Read more →

Mommie Brain

Pleased to be a walking science experiment

I just found my old maternity bras in our garage. I’d been down there before scouring for them, but between furniture, Benjamin’s old clothes, toys and books and who knows what else, it seemed they were gone for good. Until, like a parting of the sea, Jay headed down to make a little space so we could maneuver through the chaos.... Read more →


Part 2: Santa Monica’s parks are a stroll away

Park-sick after visiting relatives in Boston, Addison and I decided to check out some of the many varied parks Santa Monica has to offer. For the first article we didn’t have to go far. Palisades, Reed and Dorothy Green are all in our regular rotation, but as we continued our tour further afield, trying to cover more ground, we enlisted... Read more →

Community Profiles

Teacher is a dancing queen

Benedicte Schoyen was having photographs taken of her and her dancing at the Santa Monica Dance Studio. The photographer was walking with a cane, and Schoyen found out that he had been diagnosed with cancer. So she organized a fundraiser at her dance studio to help him. “She got all artist friends together to throw a concert and... Read more →


Variety is the spice of life

THE BACKYARD — Some people need an excuse to bring the barbecue grill out of hibernation and fire it up. Not me. I don’t care if it’s Fourth of July weekend or the Super Bowl. I love to grill, and pretty much do so all year long, taking breaks during the few days it rains or when too many neighbors stop by looking for... Read more →


Sweating it out with Joe

Let me say this: you’re going to need a change of clothes. Now let me explain why: when you take Joe Rivera’s Kickboxing Burn at Burn Fitness you will sweat so much you will be sopping wet by the time you leave. Rivera, a black belt in two styles of martial arts with 30 years of training behind him, structures his class so that... Read more →


Handling rejection a tough task

Dear New Shrink, I am wondering if you can give me advise about handling rejection. I have started to feel really bad because I lost my job and cannot seem to find another one; several times I have gone on job interviews, and not even had a call back. But what is really troubling me is dating. I have no trouble getting dates but here too,... Read more →